Why do we bring past baggage into new relationships? Why do we allow our past to define us and drag us down in the worst ways possible? Too often, we get caught up in the blame game.
When you find out a guy has been married before, do you hit the brakes? Worry that he may have too much I tell you what: You should be far more afraid of the dudes with zero baggage.
Most people carry some kind of wound from their past. But sometimes it can be anxiety-provoking to be with someone who we sense has emotional baggage. For people to feel comfortable sharing their past, they need to feel safe, and this can take some time.
I have known this guy for two years now. We started off as friends, had a bit of a romance, then broke up and we are now starting to be friends again. I feel like I was always the one who was more invested in the relationship. So my question is, how do I support him with that kind of a baggage as a friend now?
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What do you do when you find out the guy you're dating has been married before? Do you hit the brakes? Worry that he may have too much…baggage?
Is it worth it? Some forums can only be seen by registered members. I very recently started dating a woman. Physically she is totally my type.
This post is meant to help people who know someone or is dating someone that has gone through a tough time in life. Sometimes it is hard knowing what to say or do when you learn about something difficult. Even I know people who have been depressed, suicidal, sexually assaulted or suffer from anxiety.
One of the toughest things about dating is slowly uncovering the secrets in our past that we may not be not proud of or personality traits that may not work well together. It's not easy figuring out how to deal with relationship baggageespecially if you're still in the honeymoon phase. After all, it's so much more comfortable believing that your partner is this perfect person who's never been bitter about life or made any mistakes.